Monica Lewinsky

Monica Lewinski: The price of shame.

Truth is, I have never understood the amount of narcissism and libido that let Bill Clinton ruin the lives of three people and bitterly disappoint an entire country, if not the world, for a few moments of fleeting pleasure. If he was unsatisfied in his marriage, so were millions of other men, but they didn’t all act on it.

Around the time this was happening to Monica Lewinski and the Clintons, I was going through my own marital crisis in New Hampshire. And although I was a college teacher and surrounded by young, attractive and often flirtatious coeds, I let my fantasies remain just that — fantasies. The last thing I wanted was the complication, deceit, and immorality involved in making a promise to my wife and failing to keep it.

In our narrative about Bill Clinton and Monica Lewinsky, the spotlight was aways on Bill and Monica — he was the preying older man of power and charm, and she was the helpless, much-too-young, confused, “bimbo.” As for Hillary, I blamed her for not doing a better job at her own wifely duties, or at least helping him find a  more discrete, anonymous object of desire.

In in retrospect, I sense that we’ve all gotten it all wrong — rushing to judgment, assuming behaviors and intentions that did not exist. And while only the truly heartless never felt a moment of sadness and concern for that young intern, Monica, most of us did feel sad and concerned.

Maybe we don’t have to feel so concerned anymore. In her speech to TED, it is clear that if she has not entirely recovered, she is well on her way to putting her Clinton encounters into perspective and learning something valuable in the process.

I can only wish her much luck and a life filled with the good choices she has always wanted for herself and her family.

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Frank Marafiote

Frank started the Hillary Clinton Quarterly in 1992 and has been "keeping up with Hillary" for more than 25 years. Recently retired, he worked in advertising and communications and also taught marketing courses several times a year for a local university.

3 thoughts on “Monica Lewinski: The price of shame.”

  1. Killary is an affront to anyone who believes in a non-corrupt democracy! She has lived a life of unvarnished corruption, deceit, and lying. Stand up to her. Vote her out of politics.

  2. You’re comparing two very different women, both in age and in responsibility. It doesn’t make a great deal of sense. On the other hand, as I have said in other articles, the Monica thing was disgraceful on Bill Clinton’s part and will forever ruin his legacy as president. As far as Monica goes, her personal growth and acceptance of the past and forward-looking attitude today, is very admirable. No one would ever say the Clintons treated her well.

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